Back in July 2005, Canada became the fourth country to legalize same-sex marriage. For me, I didn’t really think anything of it. And it wasn’t that it wasn’t a BIG DEAL (it totally was) nor because I am heterosexual (for the most part*) and it didn’t directly affect me. No, it was more that, in my brain, marriage equality is a no-brainer. Just like any human rights equality issue. Two (or more – if that’s your thing) consenting adults should be able to marry whomever they want. Period. It doesn’t matter what kinda junk they have. Love is love. And the government or the church or Cthulu or whatever sure as hell should not get to dictate that.
At the time, I didn’t realize what a monumental thing my country was doing. But if you look at 2008, when marriage equality came to the forefront in American politics. It absolutely BAFFLED me when marriage equality was struck down. Perhaps it was my tiny little liberal-socialist, atheist, secular Canadian brain, but I could not articulate why there was so much anger, so much ignorance, and so much fear. I did not get it at all. Ok, well, that’s not true, I got it, I have been in and around the LGBTQ community long enough to totally get it, but I didn’t want to get it. I wanted to think better of humans.
That said, I couldn’t understand why the most powerful country on our little mudball planet could not get their shit together about something as simple as someone’s right to love and, more importantly, someone’s right to commit to a long term relationship. It made NO SENSE.
Now, it’s 6 years later and while there are still a great many things I do not understand about my friends to the South, I am so happy that the US Supreme Court has FINALLY lifted the ban on same-sex marriage. Now the US can FINALLY join the rest of Western Civilization in celebrating love and everyone’s base human right to love and marry (if that’s your thing) whomever they want.
Next up, America, how about you tackle the race, epic poverty and the gender inequality stuff**?
*I am an unrelenting girlcrusher.
**I’ll nudge Canada to do the same. Even the Great White North could be much better at those things too.